Be Selfish

There's a common misconception out there that being selfish is a bad thing. This is wrong. Selfish people are the ones who make the world go round, who create art and civilization. Selfishness is the key to living a happy, successful life. The key, though, is to understand exactly what selfishness is.

Steps

 * 1) Discover what selfishness is. Selfishness is not using others, or making them serve you, or removing yourself from people. Selfishness is being primarily interested in your own goals. Selfishness has nothing to do with other people - a selfish person who hurts others is a contradiction in terms. A selfish person is concerned with their self, and has no need to hurt others. An excellent resource on what selfishness is are Ayn Rand's Novels.
 * 2) Find out what makes you happy. Having things that make you happy is the key to being selfish. Do what you love, value things, be a happy person. When you have discovered what it is that makes you happy, follow it.
 * 3) Succeed in a certain area. Success is a primary component of being selfish. Being successful means that you have dedicated yourself to something that makes you happy and have followed through on it.
 * 4) Stop sacrificing. Don't sacrifice unless its for something else that makes you happy. If you sacrifice, then you loose something that you value, something that makes you happy. You'll never live a full life if you live this way.
 * 5) Understand the parts other people play in your lives. Remember, they are people, just like you. People are often an essential component to a selfish life. Having someone that you value and who's company you find enjoyable, your self finds a value in them. If you are in love with someone, that person is of value to you. To quote Ayn Rand, "In order to say 'I love you', you must first be able to say the I".

Tips

 * The most important thing of being selfish is using your brain. Many selfish people end up failing miserably at life because they did not think things through and did not look at the long term. You must use reason and be able to think if you are going to pursue your own goals.
 * Read Ayn Rand. The person who founded a concrete, defined morality of egoism and selfishness.

Warnings

 * Use these steps and tips at your own risk. Being selfish may cause your families and friends to think less of you (good intentions or not).

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