Rear a Nice Child

If you are thinking of having a kid, or have already had one...here are some tips on how to rear a gentle child.

Steps

 * 1) Remember that first impressions matter. How you treat the child at the very beginning matters a lot. From the very start concentrate on loving your child and being really gentle with your child for as long as you can, but make sure it is over a month. Never be rough, never scream, never lose patience. Treat your child like a china cup, because that way you are subconsciously printing these good feelings in your child's mind about you and they will emulate you.
 * 2) Do not dangle your child by one arm at 5 months or feed the child with the same bottle you're holding them in, turned around and talking to your friend or not paying attention. Your child will grow up with low self esteem, low confidence, no self worth/respect, and will overlook and not use their own talents. Just getting by, waking up in the morning and doing basic things will be a struggle for him/her. Give your child your full attention ESP the first years. Never treat your child like a rag doll or your child will grow up viewing themselves as a rag doll and will lose self respect. Maybe not straight away, but they will be self-destructing adults. As crass as this sounds, these children have a higher chance of going into prostitution then children who are given full attention
 * 3) Think of the adage that "the son of the cat kills a rat". Remember your child copies you; if you treat the child well she/he will treat you well, if you treat others well the child will treat others well.
 * 4) Know when to draw the line. If your child misbehaves mildly then punish mildly. Mildly should be mild. For example, just simply raise your voice a little while talking. If your child severely misbehaves punish severely. Severe should be severe but do not lose the plot completely. Simply tell them "do not do that again" in a disappointed/authoritarian tone, perhaps send them to their room. Never get angry and hit your child. Know that there are more peaceful ways to respond to violence.

Tips

 * Hug your child often.
 * Laugh with your child, never at your child.
 * Encourage a healthy sense of humor. Discourage an unhealthy sense of humor such as sticking your middle fingers up. There is a time and place for that and this should not be done in front of any member of the family.
 * If you are married, show affection and admiration for your spouse in front of your child. It promotes a sense of security, love, and respect for the whole family and it's goals.

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