Develop Self Control

Self control is an important part of life; it enables us to enjoy our lives by not overdoing anything that might harm us and those around us. Self control also enables us to live in harmony with others, by not being overly demanding and by respecting their space and well being too.

Steps

 * 1)  Use manners. Manners are a means to create a socially acceptable method of interacting with others that respects their needs and our own. It is difficult to be rude to someone using manners and people are not very forgiving of someone who does that. Hence, your self control can be boosted by always relying on using good manners.
 * 2)  Practice delayed gratification. Self control is about learning to forgo immediate satisfaction and waiting for things when the time is right. This means not placing everything on your credit card now. It means not staying out until 4am just because you can. Instead, delay your need for instant gratification and learn that good thing come to those who wait.
 * 3)  Practice everything in moderation. As with not seeking instant gratification, enjoying all things in life in moderation is essential. This means forgoing the entire chocolate cake in preference for a simple slice. It means doing the activities that fit into the time you have, rather than multi-tasking yourself into the ground.
 * 4)  Refuse to resort to cursing and raging. Self control is about calmly and slowly identifying the cause of your distress and irritation and addressing it with realistic reactions. Cursing and raging get you nowhere other than earning you a reputation as a hothead who can't be trusted or even worse, as someone who is potentially violent. Find calm and constructive outlets to deal with your concerns.
 * 5)  Take up sports or activities that teach you inner focus. Consider such activities as the martial arts, tai chi, yoga, meditation, etc. as forms of self-centering and learning to rely upon your inner strength. These are excellent means for developing self control.
 * 6)  Think before you speak or act. Self control does not react in the heat of the moment. Rather, it requires consideration. Practice this in order to perfect it, so as to enable you to respond reasonably quickly to situations in a level-headed manner but without resorting to immediate gut reaction behavior. Always think, think, think.

Tips

 * Try to sidestep being overly materialistic; too much reliance on materialism is a sign of lacking self control and relying on objects or accumulation as a form of confidence building rather than relying on your inner core as a source of self control and external strength.