Deal With an Ex Husband & His New Wife Living in the Same Town

Sometimes circumstances cannot be changed, and you have no other option than to live in the same small town as your Ex husband & his new wife. It may be a sacrifice you've made for the sake of your children. It's not easy. But there are ways to make it better, even if you're still full of anger and resentment.

Steps

 * 1) Stay out of their playing field! You are not a part of "their" life.
 * 2) * You have to understand this before you are really ready to do this. At times you want to tell them how they are doing things wrong. JUST DON"T !
 * 3) * Stop yourself by repeating "STAY OUT OF THEIR PLAYING FIELD"
 * 4) * Make a sign with this phrase on it. Make more than one if you really need reminding. It will become more natural to think of the words in your head after you've had the signs around. If you're really hurt it may take longer.
 * 5) Don't try to be the "nice one" and apologize for the past just to make yourself feel better. This is especially important if the divorce was a bitter one, or your Ex has been abusive in the past. He will only see your attempt at apologizing as weakness. Think of chickens in a hen house; they will peck and peck at the weakest one. You don't want to be that weak chicken being pecked on. You don't need that in your life.
 * 6) Remember it's over. Just move on with your life.
 * 7) Keep your perspective. When you see your ex-husband & his wife repeat these words to yourself; "God bless you, let him deal with you how he may and teach you the lessons you need to learn." Then smile and be polite.
 * 8) * Repeat often.

Related

 * How to Divorce As Peacefully As Possible
 * How to Tell Your Husband You Want a Divorce
 * How to Handle Divorce Anger
 * How to Deal With Children in a Divorce Situation
 * How to Tell Your Kids You're Getting a Divorce
 * How to Stop Your Kids from Using Your Divorce to Their Advantage