Tips to Overcome Shyness

Tips

 * Remember that shyness is an emotion, not a permanent personality trait. You have the power to change your feelings of shyness through desire and actions.
 * "Fake it till you make it" - is a good motto. Keep pretending to be confident and after awhile you will find that you really are. Remember though that pushing yourself too hard into situations you don't feel comfortable will just reinforce the problem. Shyness and social anxiety is a behaviorally learned trait and you'll need to ease into things at a semi-comfortable rate.
 * Fear and excitement share the same chemistry, adrenaline. If you focus on the positive aspects of the event, speech, activity, etc. and think of your tension as anticipation, you can flip your fears over into a thrill that makes you enjoy being outgoing. Many outgoing, eloquent people go into public situations with as much tension as you do but they interpret it as excitement and share it with others. Stage fright can vanish into a stellar performance when you make that switch in what you think the feeling is.
 * Say " yes" to more things. At first it will be difficult. Start with small things, like saying hi to a classmate or something; the thing is that when you accept to do thing you don't often do, you can get so many cool moments. Plus, you'll feel better about yourself because you were brave enough to do it.
 * Volunteer or join a club or social group! Join a club you are interested in and you'll meet other people with common interests. This is a great way to make friends.
 * Just know that almost everyone is shy to some extent. The difference is the degree of shyness. You can boost your confidence through practicing conversation skills and having new topics to discuss.
 * Give yourself lots of time to talk. Speaking slowly gives you more time to think about what to say, as well as often adding weight to your words.
 * Make a list of things you love about yourself and post it on your wall. It may strike up some confidence before leaving the door.
 * Overcome stage fright by imagining you are someone else, such as a favorite celebrity you admire. Picture yourself as that person until you feel comfortable onstage.
 * There's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either!
 * Don't be afraid to seek professional help; group counseling, individual counseling, and therapy can help you along the way. Sometimes it's more than just shyness, and it's important to realize that. Social Anxiety Disorder is often seen as "extreme shyness," so make sure that you know what you have.
 * If you are shy when you were smaller you don't still have to be. You are your own person. Be what you want and since you're here I'm sure you don't want to be shy.
 * Join a marital arts class, you might be asked to demonstrate a form or a kick or a punch.
 * Go to a few clubs and activities that interest you like a team or sport, but if you don't like competition, join a cooperative club, like creative writing or art. Try your hardest at them, and chances are, you will get along well with the people in your club.
 * Just believe in yourself and try your best. Thinking that you will overcome the fear increases self-confidence.
 * Don't be afraid to admit that you're shy to people and ask for their help, you'll be surprised how willing people are to help - eg "I'm feeling a bit shy about discussing that here, can we find 5 minutes later to discuss it somewhere quieter?" or "I'm shy about public speaking, could we present this project together?"
 * Don't be over confident!! Because if you really are doing something wrong and someone points it out you might deny it. You might come off snarky and arrogant more than confident.

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