Become a Stronger Woman

For hundreds of years women have struggled to find their place in society. So, ladies, now that our great-grandmothers have done all of the hard work (gaining the right to vote, right to equal job salaries, etc.) you want to be a better woman and contribute to an already phenomenal women friendly society. Okay, that or you are tired of being jerked around by other women and men and want to empower yourself. Any motive you have is a valid one, and the courage to type "How to Become a Stronger Woman" into a search engine proves you're already on the right track. Women from birth have to find that confidence in themselves that makes her a "strong woman".

Steps

 * 1)  Identify your femaleness.  Find that part of you that makes you a special female specifically.  Do you have pretty eyes?  A lyrical voice?  Flowing hair?  Find something that you can look at your feminine side and say now that is something woman about me.  It doesn't have to be an appearance characteristic, but definitely something men just can't pull off like you do.
 * 2) Find a strong woman you believe in.  Emulate her.  Look to Audrey Hepburn, Mother Teresa, Hillary Clinton, your mother, your best friend's big sister, anyone!  Find a woman you appreciate.  Next time you need to be strong think to yourself, "What would (insert name) do?"
 * 3)  Cut out all the drama.  It can be hard but confident strong women don't appreciate gossip and over the top emotional situations.  You can be a tender, emotional, easily moved woman.  That does not mean you need to talk about what Miss Marsh did with little Jimmy's P.E. teacher.  No need to be rude about gossip, but when it comes up in conversation think classy and don't contribute.  In addition, men don't like women who gossip.  It shows insecurity and a lack of respect for other's reputations.
 * 4)  Confidence is key.  Start talking to people and be proud of what you have to say.  It can be very difficult when you are a reserved woman, but speaking up changes everything.  Make conversation with strangers (in an appropriate, non-threatening manner) and stay involved in current events and newsworthy topics to help make wise  up-to-date chit chat.  When speaking to those you already know speak more than you usually do, but give people a chance to speak about themselves as well.  (No one likes to do anything more than talk about themselves and taking that away is dangerous.)  Remember to be proud, patient, pensive when speaking.  You don't want to come off as cheeky or boastful so thoroughly thinking through your statements can be helpful.
 * 5)  Kiss the past goodbye.  If you're doing an internal make over than wiping your past clean can be a great mental break.  Take a step back and think to yourself, "I woke up this morning a powerful female.  I'm staying that way no matter what comes my way, and anything I did yesterday can just melt away.  I'm not doing that again."  And if you're past ever does come back to bite you supply an apology if you feel it's necessary, but DO NOT BACK DOWN.  If you feel the need to let these people know you're moving on tell them so.  They may not agree and the band-aid formed may not hold, but you will be happier internally if you stay strong, don't lash out, and keep your cool.
 * 6)  Keep your convictions.  Don't run from fights.  Wanting to avoid conflict is a natural reaction to any issue, but fleeing from it doesn't always help.  Speak what's on your mind in a civil manner, even if you're opponent is not being as lady-like.  Tell them why you believe you are correct, justify that statement, and give them an opportunity to speak openly.  If you discover you are correct and they lay down walk away empowered, but be gracious about your victory.  If you discover you were wrong in your beliefs politely explain what you were wrong about, apologize if necessary, and walk away guilt free. (Over apologizing can be painful, so be calm and remain strong.) If you come to a dead tie that remains unresolved: drop it.  If it's brought back up, handle it.  But don't go searching for an issue.
 * 7)  Dress proudly.  Dressing proudly and dressing like a slut is very different.  Women who flaunt themselves more than necessary are the most unappealing and insecure females out there.  Men will certainly be interested in doing "something" with them, but it will not amount to anything.  Women with good relationships dress comfortably and flirtatiously, but don't require thongs and fish nets to do it.  Don't risk being mistaken for a hooker because you feel like getting a man.
 * 8)  Admit your flaws.  Be open and content with things you are not good at, laugh about photos of yourself you find unflattering, and smile about positions you did not achieve/ contests you did not win etc.  Be content not being perfect.  Women who try to be exempt from flaws crumble faster than those with too many to count.
 * 9)  Be happy having enemies.  From a young age everyone must learn that some people just won't like you.  Once you know you are unliked by someone (whether it was provoked or not) understand that and know they aren't worth your time.  Don't force a friendship to happen, it will do more harm than good.
 * 10)  Handle insults and compliments with grace.  Take every comment made about you as lightly as possible.  Appreciate flattering statements with a simple un-exaggerated "thank you" and ignore not so flattering comments.  No one likes someone stuck up, and petty people aren't worth your time.

Tips

 * Find a power song/poem/thought. Get it planted in your mind, and use that inspiration when you need a pick me up.  (Powers don't tend to come from love songs, tragic poems, or any other possible emotionally jerking topics.)

Things You'll Need

 * More like what you don't need! A man is never necessary ladies!  You've got it going on and strong women hardly care when they're single.  You are proud, passionate women who don't need a men constantly by your sides.  But, when you are on the prowl and looking for a man remember that confidence.  Confidence can be scary to men, but it is also very appealing.