Be Who You Want to Be

Ever feel like you are not the person people say you are, and you really feel like you are someone else. Maybe you feel trapped in a role that has been assigned to you, but you never asked for it.

Steps

 * 1) Stop blaming other people for your situation. Decide who you really are. Although you have been in character for so long you might think that that is who you are stuck being, but consider that you have been trained to be a certain way from birth by your parents, and your peers. You don't have to take responsibility for other peoples expectations anymore. You are capable of so much more then the limited beliefs that have been placed on you. That includes your own beliefs as well.
 * 2)  Start loving yourself as though you are that new person. Enjoy becoming your new role, but be patient with yourself. You are like a newborn baby and you have to start building yourself all over again with what you have. Work hard to get there, but if you fall down, get back up.
 * 3) Know that other people may or may not agree with you becoming your new self. Don't be surprised if they don't support you or worse, they turn against you. Give them time to get to know you all over again, but just know that some people will only like you on their own terms. Some people will try to convince you that it's just not possible to change. They may even try to make you feel guilty for trying. Some people have an image of who they think you should be, but that's all it is, just an image. They may not be ready to give that up. Keep in mind that they really don't own you.  God knows you and no one else can tell you what to do.
 * 4) Eventually you will find yourself in your new role. Just remember to try not to be jaded. All the hard work that got you here is pointless if you you end up bitter. If you want to be happy as your new self, then you need to learn to forgive yourself and others.

Tips

 * Make new friends that will support you in your new role.
 * Find out as much as you can about your new role. Learn and grow.
 * Use multiple sources including Google to find out what you need. Chances are good that you will find it.
 * Remember the journey is still more important then the reward.
 * Give yourself praises often and thank God for everything that you have.
 * It's OK to cry.

Warnings

 * Don't be judgmental. You will only get back what you put out.
 * Take constructive criticism from experienced people, but watch out for people who are jealous of you. They may give you the wrong advice. Follow your intuition.
 * Don't believe your own self defeating thoughts.

Things You'll Need

 * Love and Determination.

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