Survive a Divorce

Divorce can be difficult - but there are things you can do to make it less difficult that will give you the best chance to achieve the best possible solutions. Anger, hurt, sadness, confusion, frustration and resentment are very real, reasonable emotions during the divorce process. Staying stuck (or being dragged unwillingly back by the various unending circumstances of the day) in these emotions can completely weaken your reasoning and decision-making abilities. They can also rob you of your future happiness. Humor and laughter can increase your chances of divorce success.

Steps

 * 1) Take care of yourself. You may have heard it before and not really followed through, thinking that this would involved a large time or money commitment (e.g. new exercise program, new diet, extra sleep, etc). But taking care of yourself can be simple -- for instance, just laughing more will make you feel better  Laughter will improve your mental, emotional, and physiological well-being.
 * 2) Use your newfound well-being to have a wonderful evening with your children, or to keep your sanity and your peace while your spouse tries to rattle you, or to make a better divorce agreement decision, or to save an expensive call to your divorce lawyer  just to vent.  One thing is for sure - nothing bad will come of it.
 * 3) Marriage is not Life.
 * 4) There is life always, with or without Marriage. Your Broken feelings are temporary and can be overcome.  The pain you are going through is absolutely reasonable.  However, imagine when you will be happy in the near future with a good relationship.  All this pain will be very distant..
 * 5) Move On....Set new Goals,Learn new Things,Console your self.
 * 6) No matter what others suggest you.It is you who has to go through the whole Divorce.You can definitely handle it.
 * 7)  Look for new activities to pursue. Are there hobbies that you enjoy or new activities that you would like to explore? It is a good time to get involved in something that distracts your mind from the difficult time you have been going through and gives you a sense of fulfillment and enjoyment. Another idea is to consider volunteering - helping others in need is often a good way to distract you from your own pain.

Tips

 * Go at your own pace. If your divorce is already Hell, and you can only handle one chuckle per week, start there.  If your divorce process hasn't begun yet, but your marriage has been Hell for a while, then maybe you might try 5 minutes of comedy a night.

Warnings

 * Your future-ex-spouse might get very upset by your light-heartedness. It will show them that you are moving on.  The best way to attract great things into your life is to be in a good emotional space.

Related Tips and Steps

 * How to Overcome Sadness
 * How to Choose the Right Divorce Lawyer
 * How to Overcome the Fear of Marriage
 * How to Live a Happy Married Life
 * How to Deal With a Spouse's Previous Marriage

Sources and Citations

 * http://www.rightdivorcefoyou.com
 * http://www.nridivorce.com
 * http://www.heritage.org/Research/Family/BG1373.cfm

Resources
Books on how to survive divorce