Live Your Life the Way You Want to and Not Come Across As Being Selfish

No one wants to be disliked, frowned upon, or gossiped about. People who are fakes and selfish normally receive these things. Here's a wikihow that will help you be yourself and not come across as selfish

Steps

 * 1) Remember who you are. To be yourself, you have to know who you are, to do this you can do the following exercise to help you: Start by writing down all the fake things about you on a sheet of paper. Then write down stuff about yourself that you haven't told people before or the things that people know but that are true. Finally dispose of the first sheet of paper. The best way to is to burn or rip it up into little bits of paper. The 2nd piece of paper is who you are. You don't need to refer to it whenever you make choices. It's just an exercise.
 * 2) Discontinue any behavior you think is not part of yourself. Now, since you are reading this, you probably haven't been being yourself. This is either because of peer pressure or insecurity. If you are not being yourself because of peer pressure, than you need to start being yourself around them and if they don't like it, they don't deserve your time because you are special and you are not their puppet. If you aren't being yourself because you are insecure, you need to know that more people will like you if you are who you are and not if you're a liar.
 * 3) Be nice to everyone. Always remember to be nice to everyone regardless of how they treat you. Smiles are contagious, and if you are nice to someone, you'll break through the shell that the devil has created and get to the nice person underneath like you. No one can call you selfish if you're nice to everyone.
 * 4) Smile always. OK, maybe you don't want to smile ALL the time. But smile when you truly are joyful. If you're having trouble finding something joyful about, try being thankful for the little things.

Tips

 * Inspiration quotes and music can be helpful in reminding you to keep being yourself - your true self. Examples include:
 * The Four Agreements (endorsed by Ellen DeGeneres and Oprah) http://www.miguelruiz.com/fouragreements.html
 * "Make Your Own Kind Of Music" by Mama Cass Elliot
 * "Singing My Song" by Christina Aguilera
 * "Beautiful" by Carole King
 * "Human" by Taliman
 * The Invitation

Warnings

 * Be brave. It's not always easy being who you want to be.

Related Tips and Steps

 * How to Be the Girl Everyone Wants to Be
 * How to Be the Leader of a Group
 * How to Elevate Your Self Esteem
 * How to Be Sassy and Lively