Receive What You Ask For

Do you often not get what you want? There are ways to ask for things and ways not to. This article will help you to ask so you will receive what you want.

Steps

 * 1)  Be clear.  Don't - use hints or vague statements and complaints then assume you've made your point.  You likely haven't.  Do - be specific about what you want.  Powerful requests are clear.  Don't say - "Are you too busy to do me a favor?" when you could say "Will you pick up my dry cleaning this afternoon?"
 * 2)  Pleasantly persist beyond the first sign of resistance.  Don't - think resistance means "no".  Do - provide more information and ask in a different way.  Don't give up after the first request but do realize that most sales happen after seven requests.
 * 3)  Let them know what's in it for them.  Don't - focus solely on your own needs.  Do - indicate how it benefits them to help you, and include gratitude - they will benefit from your appreciation!  Don't say - "I want this because I - " when you could say - ""If you'll do this for me, then I can reciprocate by - ".
 * 4)  Invite them to explore alternatives with you.  Don't - ask for one option and give up when they say "no".  Do - invite alternatives.  They might come up with options that work for them and work for you.
 * 5)  Make it easy for them to give what you want.  Don't - ask people to do things you could easily do for yourself.  Do - make it easy for them to give you what you want.  Make the best use of thier time, skills, and goodwill.  They will feel valued and you will get the help you want.
 * 6)  Ask big.  Don't - limit your requests to what you think you can get.  Do - ask for everything you want, and extra.  Don't say - "I want 18.00 an hour to do that job" when you could say, "I want 20.00 an hour to do that job".  It's much easier to negotiate your way down than it is to negotiate your way up.
 * 7)  Explain why you want what you want.  Don't - omit your reasons for asking.  Do - explain what it would mean to you to get what you want.  Remember that the word "because" is one of the most persuasive words in the English language.  Use that knowledge to help you get what you want.

Tips

 * Know what you want and say what you want. Ask and ye shall receive.  Ask well and ye shall receive well.  Asking is an important Speak Strong skill.

Related Tips and Steps

 * How to Ask for An Allowance
 * How to Ask For an Increase in Allowance
 * How to Ask a Question Intelligently

Sources and Citations

 * http://www.speakstrong.com